The Spirit of Collaboration As a Key Element of Compersion

Chapter 4 of the Composting Competition Book Club Video Series: Leaning in to connection with metamours and cultivating attitudinal compersion

In chapter 4, Marie distinguishes between embodied compersion and attitudinal compersion. If you’re new to nonmonogamy, the idea of feeling joy when your partner is out on a first date with someone else feels like a stretch for a lot of people. Rooting into an attitude of compersion (holding the mindset of wanting your partner to experience happiness and joy) is a much more attainable goal, and this chapter is a nice reminder that we shouldn’t pressure ourselves to feel compersion. This approach allows individuals to cultivate a more compersive attitude and develop positive non-monogamous relationships, even if the emotional experience of compersion isn’t present. What a relief!