The Benefits & Challenges of Common Non-Monogamous Relationship Structures

Exploring the beautiful complexity of "V," "N," and "W" relationship configurations (where there are three to five+ individuals in an interconnected ecosystem)

As we craft non-monogamous relationship structures that deviate from the usual two person dyad, it’s important to remember that the emotional health and wellbeing of all partners within the polycule are linked in subtle and overt ways.

Below are examples of three common non-monogamous structures, the “V,” the “N” and the “W,” which challenge traditional notions of romantic exclusivity, offering opportunities for profound fulfillment as well as layered complexities to navigate. We’ll explore possible pros and cons in each framework, with examples to help illustrate the ways in which these nuanced relationship structures can exist.

Polycules, Metamours & Hinges, Defined

There are lots of new terms and language to understand in non-monogamous relationships to help make sense of this wider relationship ecosystem and the ways in which people are interrelated.

Polycule: A “polycule” refers to a network or web of interconnected romantic or sexual relationships involving multiple people, highlighting how individuals within the relationship ecosystem are linked to each other through various types of connections.

Metamour: It's important to understand that the connections between “metamours” (your partner’s partners, or individuals who are not directly romantically involved) can take various shapes, from close friendship to no contact at all. The orange lines in each diagram below depict distinct romantic relationships. In the "V" shape, below, Maya and Miguel would be considered metamours since they don’t have a direct line between them, but are still connected within the polycule.

Hinge: The individual who is romantically involved with two people (who are not romantically involved with each other) is referred to as the “hinge” partner.

Non-Monogamous V-Structure Overview

In a “V” or Vee dynamic, there's one individual (the hinge) who is romantically linked with two others, who themselves aren't romantically or intimately connected. This central individual acts as the core of the V structure, linking the two individuals into a polycule. If all three people were dating each other, they would be considered a “throuple” or “triad” instead of a V.

Possible Benefits and Challenges of the V-Structure

Examples of possible ways that people within the non-monogamous “V” structure may get more of their needs met: